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kidarguing What about Arguing with Students?kidsarguing  

 By Jane Allred  
 
 
3/20/15
 
ARGUING
…..does NOT work, therefore it is useless.
…..is provoking and brings out the worst in us.
…..is addictive and hard to stop once we start.
…..is almost irresistible.
…..usually escalates into a verbal war.
…..allows the adult to control only 50% of the problem.
.....allows students to be clever, sneaky, and provokes us to participate with them.
     They love to bait and hook us.
 
arguing  
 
3/27/15
 
Arguing (2) 

Avoiding spontaneous discussion about problems is advised to prevent getting pulled into

arguments.  It is best to plan out a special time to sit down and discuss a problem with a

student. Spontaneous discussions usually increase irritability and decrease cooperation. Set

up a meeting in advance to discuss the issue.

 nagging
 
4/3/15
 Arguing (3)
 

Nagging students almost never works. It creates animosity toward the adult by the student.

Nagging is a set of repetitive, often hostile, verbal reminders from one person, who wants another

person to do something.  The other person does not share the first person’s enthusiasm for the idea.

 
please/thanks     
 

4-10-15

Arguing (4)
 

    shhh    WHAT TO DO WHEN A STUDENT ENGAGES US IN AN ARGUMENT        quiet boy

    (1)  STOP TALKING. (So simple, that it sounds stupid?)

    (2)  Even when they continue to talk, KEEP QUIET.

    (3)  Ignore their talking without smirking or acting superior

    (4)  Leave….walk away.

    (5)  If students follow you, do your best to ignore and remove attention.

    (6)  Just sit down and start reading something, but DO NOT TALK.

    (7)  Let them have the “last word”. That is okay.

    (8)  If they threaten to runaway, do not say anything. If they leave, do 

      not try to stop them.  Implement consequences when they return. But do

      not discuss the incident with them. If they do not return, call parents

      or your supervisor. (Follow your school or district policy.)*

    (9)  If they say that you do not care about them and that you hate them, still 

      do not talk.

    (10) It is very easy…STOP TALKING.

 
 zip it
 
 
4-17-15 
 
 
ignore  

Planned Ignoring as a Behavior Management Technique 

•    Certain behavior is purposefully ignored.

•    Useful with minor misbehavior.

•    Deprives child of attention in a planned way.

•    IN THE BEGINNING, the misbehavior will increase, so be prepared.

•    Consistency of ignoring is the key.

•    Reinforce other appropriate behaviors while  implementing ignoring with target child.

•    Teach and reinforce other students to ignore.

•    Ignoring steps:

   1.   Move at least 3 ft. away from child.

   2.   Begin ignoring w/in 5 seconds of behavior.

   3.   Look away with neutral facial expression.

   4.   Make no body contact or verbalization.

   5.   Praise alternate desirable behaviors.

 

planned ignoring  

 




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